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"My brothers and I met to plan our mother's memorial service.  As I sat back and listened to their discussion elevating to an emotional level, I began to share with them our mother's final wishes.  They were very different than what my two brothers wanted to do.  As I began to share, they began to get more frustrated.  It wasn't until I presented them with my Mother's written plans, did they begin to listen to what I was saying.  She wrote who she wanted to speak, what music was to be played, what color flowers, where she wanted her ashes spread, etc.  When my brothers saw her handwriting... it IMMEDIATELY stopped all arguing and tension.  We simply went to work on planning what our beautiful mother wanted.

When you are grieving over losing someone you love it is not a time to fight.  Who knows what would have happened with me and my brothers if our mother hadn't acted selflessly for the benefit of her children to give us a road map to memorialize her.  Please take the courageous step to let Carol help you plan your own transition event.  It was so much easier to handle the pain of losing my mother when I was given the privilege and honor of simply carrying out her final wishes."

-Courtesy of Terri Rose


Around 10 in the morning, the phone rang. A woman inquired about how to make a claim on her husband's life insurance. After expressing condolences, I asked "when did he die?"

   'Oh, around six this morning!' she replied. 'But he wasn't supposed to die today!'

I asked which mortuary was handling arrangements, and she had none chosen. I asked whether she was planning in-ground burial or cremation. She didn't know. He had been in and out of the hospital for months... but they never discussed plans in more than 30 years of marriage.

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When partners don't talk about end of life and final plans, the results can be life-changing for the one left behind.

   Waiting too long to make a claim after death - because she didn't know where to locate the policy - cost one spouse a small fortune.

Knowing which documents are important, discussing them with family, and making them easy to find are essential to final planning. 

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After attending my class "A Loved One Has Died, Now What?"  this person wrote that she was ' motivated to get  organized and have final plans in place...', so that her children would not have to deal with uncertainty after her death.